New LBS dealing with WW Part 2

[Joe2017]

Thanks for the feedback, it means a lot to me. I was lucky enough to find out about LRT somewhere around the week 2 mark, and then found this forum and decided to ask for help here.

Around the 2.5 week timeframe, I stumbled a few times trying to have the R talk. She hugged me one time after a conversation about the truth about her A (I got partial truth). I posted here about it and got admonished, and learned to see how my actions were weak. That never happened again.

The last time I mentioned R was when I got served and I told her that I would R with the old W but not this new WW person that she is now. That was around week 3. That's when I started digging in my heels on NC, and have dug them in even deeper.

NC has solved a lot of problems with arguing. However, I do really miss my W. Not the WW but my W. For the past week and a half I've had no physical or voice contact. I know I'm headed into a crapstorm when I return to the house with my boy. And it will be emotional. I am going to practice my standard responses in the mirror before I get back home.

I had played with the idea of a R talk to try to get her to choose recon over D but I posted here about it first and got slapped a few times by you all. Lol. Thank you for that.

Oh yeah, I had gotten the tearful and remorseful "I miss talking with you" thing from her a few days after I got served. I told her that she filed for D so we don't have anything to talk about now except money and kids. Man that was hard. It left her dazed, so at least something was going on up there (I hope).

I mean, it has really only been 6 weeks since BD. That's not a lot of time. I haven't had sufficient time to heal from the initial shock of the situation. I think I started DB at a relatively early stage in this process, though.

Maybe it was soon enough to make an attempt at recon. But, maybe not. Either way, the worst thing that happens is D.

And either way it goes I will be a much more rounded person who is also physically fit and more interesting. And God willing, happier.