Thanks for the info job. I have read DR, and will go through the rest of your homework assignments. If I understand the chapter in DR on MLC correctly, all that can be done is to wait for the MLCer to get through it, and to try not and prolong things that might push away the MLCer away?
I've taken the approach of trying to get her relax when we are together. So trying to reduce unnecessary conflict and not getting baited into arguments. I've stopped talking about the relationship unless she brings it up and even then I am consciously trying to listen and validate.
We spent XMas day together as a family and things went relatively well. She mentioned that she enjoyed spending it together as a family and that we should do it every year. You can imagine my surprise as this is an MLCer that moved out in order to get the clock ticking on a D. I sort of smiled and nodded, with the mindset that I should act as if we will be R in the future. But as with any positive development with an MLCer I took it with a grain of salt, as she did some backsliding a few days later and reminded me that she wants a divorce.
