New LBS dealing with WW Part 2

[Joe2017]

Sandi:

That was an amazing set of posts. I read what you put here as well as petri's thread. I will read and re-read them while I go through this process.

What I have done to show WW that I'm dumping her:
Told her that her problems are no longer my problems.
Told her that I am not going to be her friend.
Told her that I don't have anything to talk to her about unless it is about money or kids.
Told her that her attorney can contact my attorney any time a D topic has come up.
Any in-person or telephone communication is ended by me.
I go out and have fun on my own or with friends and I don't tell her about it.
Removed myself from the phone plan.
Moved my money, changed my bank account to one she cannot control.
Went no contact.

So once I realized how backwards dealing with a WW is, I decided to just do OPPOSITE of everything I really want to do as the old husband. Everything. I went no contact, I don't respond to her unless it fits the rules, I don't talk to her in person unless I absolutely have to.

I GAL, and I go out and do things. I work out. I'm taking classes at night. I went to a couple concerts. I went to a football game. I'm planning on going to a NYE party with friends. She has been stalking my SM and whatnot, making comments to me about my posts. I never respond.

I have been 99% no contact (besides business) since before Christmas, when I took my kid to stay at a friend's while I visit family. She went from texting me every day and being ignored, to trying to use kids and money as a loophole to start conversations but still getting ignored if it is BS. When she realized that I am only responding in one-sentence emails about REAL BUSINESS matters, she went on a really crazy rant over texts saying that I've created distance between us, and accusing me of trapping her in our home (lol) and has been silent for the past two days.

She has been doing exactly what you said, Sandi: temperature checks. When she got back no emotions from me over the course of almost 2 weeks, she lost it.

Like petri, when my WW was told to leave the house she freaked out and told me that she didn't have the money, had no resources, had no family or friends to help her, and that I'M the one who should move out. When I took the MBR back and she got really mad but surrendered it to me. When I am firm with her, I get much less emotional crap back from her.

So, again... I am going back to the home next week. I will go back to the "neighbor" approach while I am there. Until then, I plan on having a great time for NYE and I really believe I am going to be better off in 2018. I'm planning on being out of the house more and doing more things for myself.

I feel like the past 2-3 weeks I have done a much better job of DBing, but my emotions are still damaged. I have done some healing, but I know the ride is not over. I have a decent poker face so I'll be using it a lot.

Thank you so much for being an amazing resource for us LBS's.