In my sitch W has told that if you don't behave like this and this I'll get my own bigger apartment. When I finally told her to get that apartment I saw what Sandi and all other "oldtimers"(sorry) write about. They kind of freak out. My W gave reasons immediately: it takes time to find an apartment, it takes time to get the money for rent, it may take months etc...it was actually funny to read them.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.