Seriously debating not wearing the ring anymore, I feel so despondent about the MR right now. But we haven’t told the kids yet, and they are not stupid. We are goig to the MC this week, I am going to ask W if she wants to go alone, or have half the time alone. She has no IC right now and is clearly having a hard time.

I am starting to understand some of her statements now. I think she thinks I am a narccicist and I only do things for myself. That I have no empathy. I am a deeply wounded person, which my IC has pointed out, but I do not believe her assessments. My wife IS clearly more empathetic than me, but mu closed offness is due to trauma, not disdain for others.

I know ths is a marathon. I badly need my second wind to kick in.


Me: Mid 40s W : Early 40s
M:11 T:13
S, D, both 7-10
BD : 11/2017
Separation : 1/18