still struggling

[Jim1234]

Does it count as validation if she never got the message? LOL

I texted her to ask for her schedule for the month so we could figure out when we would each have the kids, so I could plan mine. For some reason she could see that I sent her a text, but not the text itself. She went on to say her water wasn't working, and elaborated a little bit.

I said "wow, sounds like you having a hard time..." and told her I knew she could handle it.

But she called a little later, I didn't answer, and sent a text "I'm out right now.... What's up?"

She replied that she still couldn't read my texts, but was sure I wanted to know her schedule, so she gave me the info I was looking for.

I just think it's funny that I finally validated, and distanced, and did it right, but she never got the messages. And I guess, now that I'm typing it, I'm kind of proud of myself that I think it's funny, rather than being upset that she didn't notice.