I just learned very recently what H has been telling people about our marriage. He's been throwing me under the bus quite a bit. Regarding his OW,,,he says he was miserable for years in the marriage and for him the marriage was dead. Then along comes OW and how can he be faulted for jumping into that since marriage was dead.
That hurts. How could I have missed that he was so bloody unhappy? And why on earth wouldn't he suggest MC or make some effort, or at least tell me!
OW entered H's life 20 days before BD. Right up to BD and OW I believed we had a good M. Friends thought we were very compatible and were happy. Many envious of our M.
in the meantime H continues his very frequent touch and go's. I try to create distance and to reduce the touch and go's but he shows great reluctance to let it go. Also in the meantime, his relationship with OW continues to deepen. It's a LDR - she won't leave her town but he tells her he wants to be with her. They are discussing him relocating but he tells me no way he can move - can't work there for anything like the same income and he doesnt want to leave his family either. H won't tell his OW this but he still has relocation talks with her!
