Awkward Situation Got Much Worse (part 4 )

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On the dropping my W off...the difference is time as a family. A couple weeks ago, my W insisted on taking 2 cars to the same location fir 8 hours of driving. Simply put, we both drove 8 hours, and I drove 8 hours by myself, while my W drove 8 hours with the kids.

On the Christmas trip, my wife suggested we take 2 cars again. I suggested we take one. We had great laughs telling stories during the 8 hours of driving. If I had refused to take my W to my sisters house, that would have stopped one get together with my BIL, but it would end the possibility of us traveling as a family in the future.




I have read most of the book youre referring to...the wuestion is how does stopping get togethers solve anything...and what is the outcome?

My sister is not going to never allow her husband to attend family events, and should things work out with my W, she will need to be able to attend events.

If the affair was with a stranger, then my W could go forever without seeing the OM. ...not the case with my BIL, sister, and me.



Specifically, what recommendations are there for this new years celebration?

I honestly do not want to be out of town again. My wife shared the plans with my kids before talking to me, so they are looking forward to the trip....8 hours of driving for new years with my family. Yes, my W ignores my requests and visits my family...

I am really trying not to tell my family, but it is getting harder and harder to keep it from them...