She already filed because I scared her during an argument one day. It was an impulsive move but now she is sticking to it.
I have nothing to lose by having this discussion with her.
Maybe you can't see it, but it seems you are using this as an excuse to have a relationship talk. That's what it will wind up being....a R talk. And why should the decision be left to her? What's wrong with your decision button?
If you can't take it any longer, then why go back to staying under the same roof? There is nothing complicated about this stuff. You LBH's are the ones that make it complicated. If you had dropped her the minute this all started....it would be resolved by now. But since you didn't, it has become more problematic.
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It is really boggling to me. If she doesn't want me in her life, she should stop contacting me.
B/c that's not how WW's operate. And guess what else? Even if she divorces you and M OM, she'll probably still try to keep you attached to her. Not b/c she loves you, but b/c she wants the control.
If you guys would just realize how powerful dumping the WW can be, you would stop playing her games and do it. The power is given to the one who walks away. She would be chasing you down the street, trying to get you back! But you'd have to be Fonzie cool about it, and not a jackass. If you hash and rehash how she wants to go forward.....and you are "reminding" her how you don't want a D, and all the reasons to save the M, etc.......the effectiveness is lost. Know what I mean?
This woman is putting you through the wringer, and you are going home to ask her what she wants to do. She doesn't know what she wants! So, I suggest you don't ask her, but rather get a new plan of action.....b/c this isn't going to work in your favor.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
