No, she's not fully baked yet and still has difficulty planning things. Yes, they talk about what they are going to do and, yet, can't follow through. She's still depressed and her actions indicate it.
As for family...your w is wearing a mask and it takes a lot of energy to wear masks around others for any length of time.
I say...have fun and enjoy your birthday dinner.
BTW, I suggest that you not initiate any conversations about things, i.e., relationship, etc. for a while. She's not capable of listening and moving forward and working on things just yet. Just leave her be in the MLC oven a while longer.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
