Wife wont admit to affair and its driving me nuts!

[Morbo]

So keeping on keeping on.
NC, going dark, just looking after my girls, working and exercising lots.
Also, making a list of what I want to do in the next year for ME..

Wife came to collect girls today, earlier than normal.
She was really upbeat, chipper and I know I should be detached but it kinda irritates me a bit.
Anyway, I looked, smelled good(she's got to see what she's gonna lose) and I tried to not let it bother me. Kept it pleasant, distant didnt ask about her New Years plans. She is matching my distance and NC now, I'm noticing.

We had a little argument about the girls schoolclothes, something really small but she made feel like a 5 year old which was a common thing in our marriage. Made me feel like an idiot.
I dont miss that and I had forgotten about it but am really seeing it as the NC is kicking in and the "fog" is lifting. She would never talk to anyone else like that, I guess I've left her get away with it too long.
I would have said something cutting there but kids were there..
It really riled me though.

Then she was looking at my Christmas cards on the counter. One was from my mom where she had thanked me for what I had done over the year, I guess it was just words of encouragement. It was nice, really touched me. For some reason though it REALLY pi**ed off W who took it as an insult and started playing the victim and said that she was dead to my family now, even though my mom had sent her a gift and one sibling sent a gift. No one has been nasty, just not contacting her.
I said that this is what happens with a breakup and our road to divorce. People go on different sides and you just dont hear from them again. '

Think my W is under illusion that when my parents come over that we'll all hang out as a happy family and then she'll go home to her house(or wherever..'cough' OM 'cough').
I think consequences of her actions are starting to become clear to her and its probably not going to happen. Again, I'll repeat..HER LOSS.
BUT, knowing her, she'll play the victim, and take out her anger on me, no apology, I know her too well.

Anyway, 2 days now to do what I want. Got some nice work lined up and hanging out with friends tomorrow. Then plans with friends and my girls for New Years.

I know its tough for all of us here, incredibly painful what we go through but I really appreciate all the insights, the help, the genuine concern. It means a lot to me, 'sniff'..

Have a great weekend :-)