Hi all, thanks so much for your Christmas messages and your kind comments - you guys are the best and I feel lucky to have found this forum in my darkest days.
I had a nice Xmas, thank you. It was mixed because my Mum, who is very frail, wasn't well from Xmas day for a few days, which was stressful and emotional. She is on the mend now hopefully and we managed to avoid a stay in hospital for her, which was good.
Around that, I have really enjoyed the festive season, meeting up with friends or family most days for different activities. I have a little time off, which is nice as it has been a busy year. I'm away dancing over the new year, so that should be fun too.
I met up with SS and his Mum as part of the festivities and we had a nice lunch together. I hadn't realised, but SS's Mum had a huge falling out with XH and now they don't speak at all. Firstly she took a dim view of him exiting our marriage in the way that he did. But the main thing, she said was his disinterest and unreliability in seeing his S.
She said she would sometimes just get a message saying - I'm away the next few weekends. These would include one where SS was due to visit. She would reply - what about SS's weekend and XH said he'd leave food in the freezer is SS still wanted to go down. I mentioned that I'm sure XH will miss SS when he goes back to the States and SS said, I suspect I may be replaced pretty soon...
His Mum then said she imagines seeing him at SS's wedding in years to come, with W no.5, who will be much younger of course. He will be paunchy and still coming across as the good guy as he likes to do. She really has little time for him at all..
They both commented on how well I seemed to be doing and we looked at some recent pics of mine from various social events. We also talked about a comment from a friend of mine that I had 'bounced back' from the D events. SS's Mum said that it's probably because they don't see you frequently and that each time they do, you have moved a long way forward. Doesn't mean that journey was easy of course.
Anyway, all quite interesting. And the best thing for me? Whilst I still find mention of XH somewhat interested, I really did feel quite emotionally detached from his life and his stuff. It's a nice feeling not to get caught up and have an emotional nose dive at mention of him. Progress for sure...
Anyway, that's it for my news. Relax and enjoy the Xmas break everyone. Xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
