Hi Gordie, it sounds like you handled a difficult conversation pretty well - bravo to you - you have come a long way down a difficult road and learned something from the journey so far..

This sentence from her stood out for me:

"Being with OM2 is a gift that makes me realize how much I still love and care about you."

That is such a skewed perception about things and it gives some helpful insight as to where she's at. Do you notice that sentence is all about her and she doesn't really appreciate the fallout of being in a situation where being with one guy shows up another in a good light...

I agree with what seems to be the general advice on your thread. Moving out and not having to interact with her in this way will benefit you a great deal I think. You will have your own space for you and for your kids. And she may come into that space on your terms only. It will make a huge difference to your peace of mind I think.

Take care Gordie xx

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