Thanks Jim for the support, sometimes I feel like I am walking the Green Mile. Should I stick it out, should I just file myself, am I being played for a chump, etc. etc. We are technically D'd without the paperwork, finances separated, agreed upon financial terms when she moved out, alternating weeks with the kids. There are really no positive signs whatsoever outside of we are friendly and cordial to eachother. Then you most of the sitch's you read don't turn out very well at all and even after Dbing for a year or longer the LBS ultimately suffers the same fate.
Anyways I do think about the stuff, when is the right time, the consequences. Then I also think that with two young kids she was done at BD and has never had any intentions of coming home. For a lot of us that is the sad reality of this process. I think someone WS are scared and throw the D word out there but don't really mean it and there is a chance for the LBS while others who say it 100% mean it and they never look back.
I still have more to ponder but unfortunately I don't have all the answers. Off to the gym!!!
