WAW? Would Love Opinions. Part 11

[Jim1234]

I never considered myself a bad husband, maybe naive in the love languages and nuiances of MR but never a bad husband.....

I never cheated on my W, hit her, verbally abused her, gave her ultimatims, I never controlled her with sex, money. She pretty much got to do what she wanted when she wanted. I helped with the kids, took them to school, would pick them up from school, attended their practices, games, etc. I was never out late at the bars, kept her informed of when I was going to be home, if I was running late, etc. I paid all the bills, made sure we were never over extended, etc. I worked out, played basketball 3 days a week and would other guys out occassionaly for a few beers after work. She told me I was her rock and the best sex she had ever had but yet here I am....

to my W our kids came first, she came 2nd and I got whatever scraps where leftover.

Except for the ultimatums (I'm learning, and I own that), your post could have been written by me, too.

A few months in, though, I am starting to wonder why I want to reconcile. For scraps?

I think you're doing great. Keep it up.