I don't think having you take just one of the kids every weekend has anything to do with reconnection. Sorry. If she only wants one, she probably is really having a hard time handling him.
My other thought is, so what if this she wants to spend time doing "other" things. Your decision on taking your son every weekend should not be based on that at all. Either you want to, or you don't because you like having your own time every weekend to do your GAL. Neither is wrong. But your decisions shouldn't be based on what she choses to do with HER time.
You do what you want to do based on you, your S, and nobody else. Time to re-detach!
