Her words and lack of action speak strongly. Watch with your eyes not your ears.
You will find some peace and clarity once you have a space free from her intrusions. Keep moving in a healthy direction.
Your wifes actions show she is starting to realize she is loosing control of the situation. She will probably ramp up her efforts to try and keep what she sees as her control of you and the situation. She may even threaten to hurt herself in her attempts to regain control. Don't buy into it, it is just part of her game. make her own this.
You need to keep going forward at this point. Your actions now are affecting the situation in positive ways now where your previous ones werent in the past. This may not seem obvious right now, but I believe they will pay off for you in the future. Give it time and reap the benefit. Remember that this is a marathon not a sprint.Consistent action on your part will keep this moving forward and not allow it to flounder.
Happy new year Gordie, I feel it will bring good changes for you.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"