I can totally understand you want your W back, even after everything she has done because I feel exactly the same.
The reality is that a woman in this situation is a stable as a yo-yo. It goes up and down, back and forth and there is no certainty. All that is certain in her head is that it doesn't work for her now.
The best solution is to detach and hope for the best.
Truthbuster.
Married 4.5, Together 6 M: 36, W: 33, no kids Separation date: 7/8/2017 Bomb dropped: 8/18/2017 Last communication: 1/8/2018 - now nothing OM confirmed - now ended (?)