He has been transferring money every month without a problem for the past three months. In the past and during our marriage, whenever I asked for money to pay the bills, he always freaked out and gave me a hard time. As if he was surprised every month that we had bills.
So I asked him for January money because "he's going away for New Year's". At first he just said he would send it, but the next day he sent me another unclear email. He said "at some point, we have to discuss the finances. Me sending you money every month seems, I dunno" . That's literally what he said. I replied "I'm ready to start the process when you are." I told him that in November as well.
I have primary physical custody of our two boys and live in our family home. He lives in a little one bedroom cabin. (his choice to live there). I think he wants to "kitchen table" our divorce agreement, but I want someone strong on my side and would like to do "collaborative divorce" which is sort of like mediation, but you each have a lawyer guiding you.
Anyway, this is all really rough. In the beginning, I thought I would do anything to have him back. Now because he's often been such a jerk and is of course dating, I'm just not sure. I would love other people's insights.
DB August 6, 2017 after 3 month separation Me: 54 H: 58 Two Teenage sons Living Separately from H Married 19 years, together 22 years Not sure if this is an MLC or WAS
