I am on vacation this week with the kids, my W has work.
The day after Christmas, I took my three girls to the bank and opened accounts for them. I've stepped up contributions to their college funds because I figure this way I know they get the funds, whereas in the future who knows? While at the bank my W texted me:
W: "are you doing anything with the girls tonight?" Me: "no" W: "OK. I'll take them to the movies"
Normally on a Tuesday my W would not skip crossfit. What she was doing was taking two other girls the same age as my two oldest (16 and 14). These two other girls are the nieces of the guy she had (still has) an EA on. I feel my W will do anything to try to maintain some connection to this person.
On Wednesday I went to a friend's house with my youngest D because he was showing me how to brew beer. Many of my friends are actually couple's friends of both me and my W. The entire family was invited, and my W showed up after work with my two other daughters. I had a good afternoon brewing beer and then eating dinner with our friends.
When my W showed up she didn't even say hi to me, instead went outside with the other W to watch sunset.
My W and I don't really engage in conversation with each other. We talk to the group. My W related a letter she received from one of her patient's asking her out to lunch. She said how her boss told her about not dating patients. My W was like, this guy is 69 years old, what does he think? I joked that she was the perfect age for him based on the metric of "half your age plus 7" being the perfect age for a guy. She corrected me that she is actually too old then. She also mentioned she is trying to get botox even though its not related to her specialty because she wants to save money. She said her boss took her to a mirror and said, "look, no wrinkles". I think my W likes getting these comments, and the truth is she has no wrinkles.
I was telling my friend about my sister and some new developments with her. None of this was known to my W since I've stopped confiding in her. When we got home about 8:30pm, my W saw some Christmas cards from my family on the kitchen table. She started to remark about my nieces and nephews, I acknowledge but walked away to the bathroom. Then later she remarked about a check from my parents. Again, I didn't continue the conversation. Frankly, I don't want to share details of my life with her at this point.
