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chris19 #2772049 12/20/17 01:06 AM
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((Chris)), I am so sorry you feel alone and depressed at this time of the year. I think Christmastime has been so commercialized and movies about being home with family, etc., that it adds to the pain for many people.

I'm not exactly sure how you meant your statement about being 30 and on the edge of divorce. Do not mark yourself as some type of failure. I'm not saying to put all the blame on your W, but neither can you take responsibility for her actions. Space and time away from her, will help you a lot. You are hurting now, b/c of the recent interactions with her.

I hope you will block her on your phone and seriously start moving forward. Stop listening to her high school tactics.


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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Hey board; I hope everyone is able to enjoy their holidays. I am NC with W at the moment.

If she wishes me a merry Xmas I am not going to respond; any objections with this?


M:30 W:28
T:9 MR:2.5
NoKids
Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16
Move back in: 1/17
BD: 8/15
She moved out: 9/1
chris19 #2772516 12/24/17 04:40 AM
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Nope. Stay NC and no need to wish her on anything. If she sends you something, don't respond. Enjoy the holidays and it's your time for yourself.

No objections smile


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Maika #2772529 12/24/17 06:11 AM
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If I didn’t have kids, I think I’d go NC too. Stay strong.


Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
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Just got text from W:

“This Christmas was definitely hard. First one alone. I hope you had a good time with your family”


M:30 W:28
T:9 MR:2.5
NoKids
Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16
Move back in: 1/17
BD: 8/15
She moved out: 9/1
chris19 #2772680 12/26/17 12:05 PM
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It’s a “poor me” text. You’re supposed to feel sorry for her because reasons and give her some kibbles so she can feel better about herself. The truth is probably that she was either with OM or honestly WAS alone because OM had something better to do. Either way poor her


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She texted you, just like you knew she would... And with more of the same... But you have resolved to be in NC, so you are good... Adelante...

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I phoned S17 on Xmas, had a nice chat. Asked him to pass the phone to D16, and while he was, my mother asked me for the phone to talk to S. I gave it to her, and instead of D16, W is on the phone! I guess she was looking for some kibble too. I didn't get the phone back until mom was talking to my daughter. Wasn't playing games, but I just didn't care to chat with W, so didn't go out of my way to make the effort. Feeling pretty good about that.


M:23 T:26
Me:53, Wife: 60
S:18
D:16
filed 7/16
W moved out 4/28/17
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More coming in from W:

“Is there a reason you didn’t respond to me on Xmas; or the next day?”


M:30 W:28
T:9 MR:2.5
NoKids
Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16
Move back in: 1/17
BD: 8/15
She moved out: 9/1
chris19 #2772813 12/27/17 03:20 PM
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She is taken aback by your not being satisfied with her crumbs...

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