Husband gone for second time - new here

[Jim1234]

Dear Nicole, I wish I could come and give you a hug.

You don't deserve to feel so low. I'm hoping your low moment has passed for now and you can enjoy your daughters company...I know its not the same as being all together but really you don't want your H around you right now.

What he did, when you called was harsh and pathetic. He felt pressured and probably backed into a corner. Should he have?...No not at all, he's your husband, you had a connection once, he should want to help you (I didn't realise he was a doctor) But its not the same any more. He doesn't want to feel guilty, he doesn't want to feel anything or hear anything about you right now. Don't contact him again. No matter how matter of fact you word it, he sees it as pressure, manipulation even. He is heartless right now, heartless to you. Keep that in your heart the next time you feel like contacting him. I feel your pain.

I know it's monumentally hard. I don't get it either, this stone faced attitude. It's painful and scary. Especially when you have your added health issues...you must feel so alone and anxious. But try to relax. Being anxious Isn't going to change the outcome of whether you need surgery or not but it will make you feel rotten and ruin your time with daughter.

Practice some breathing exercises. Think calmly, and rationally. It won't be long and you'll have the medical answers you need.

Don't feel bad about spending time crying, it's healing too...just don't live there in that misery. Could you find out about antidepressants? A little aid may be needed. Please think about it.

I too wish you could find a wonderful man that knows your worth and value...if thats how you truly feel, it will happen in time. But you're not emotionally ready yet, but you will be and it will be a great moment for you to realise...yes, I deserve more than this. I do deserve to be valued, I do deserve to be loved and cherished and it will happen.

Get yourself feeling stronger, and have that wonderful thought to look forward to. One day I'm going to be free, independent, strong and happy...and I'll have complete and unconditional love of my daughter. And eventually a new relationship to top it off.

Hugs

^^^^ this.

Nicole, I wish I could give you a hug and listen as you pour out your problems.