Contact from the dark side.

[Irish M]

Merry Christmas to you all. Happy Holidays. To many of us this time is hard. Not having that family we so crave for as a whole.
I think I finally reached to point where I am content with those I have in my live. Those who want to be here.

Why would I want a broken wife killing the happy loving buzz of the season. I don't. I had an amazing Christmas with my family, friends and work colleagues.

I'll reply to the last post first then update.

I'm truly sorry she's still acting the way she is. I had hoped that by seeing a therapist she would be further along...but she's one stubborn lady and it may take a while, if not forever. She is missing out on so much w/her girls. Such a shame!

Hi Job, yes its the forever part I am starting to see. If I compare her to her mom the girls will have to accept her as such (and they hate their cold, narcissistic grandmother) so XW has become just that.

As much as it drives us crazy or looks just like bad behavior, its part of a process. And it looks to me like she might actually have a helpful therapist guiding her through the process. So, ignore (as you are) the bad behavior...don't acknowledge it. But feed the good behavior with praise and understanding. Basic dog training, really, LOL. In other words, do just what you're doing.

Hi Ciluzen. yes feed the good. And yes to the basic Dog training. Only thing is some dogs can't be taught new tricks. And since OM is there I am the last one to offer her a treat to help her learn faster. If she does move forward and truly take hold of it.. I will help. I will not block any contact from her to the girls. As you will see in my update.

reminds me I’m not the crazy one.

Gordie, you are no where close to being crazy... you are just on Ozzys (MLC) crazy train. Next stop... Gordie 2018. You need to let W go on her ride alone.

Not worth a second thought my friend. Yes they all follow the , me , me , me script but let them.

Yes.. me me me.. well that's a word I don't respond to anymore. I met her needs as a husband and father to our girls. There is no me, myself or I in this family... family is a group living together. Loving each other. Whether it be man and wife , with kids or without, it could be with pets. Or just a good bunch of friends living under one roof. My family is intact. XW is not part of it and that's her choice.


now for a small update.. I've been away from the site because of work and some work with homeless shelters in my area. its the 5th year I collect jackets, gloves, clothes, blankets, scarves and hats for the homeless. I also added toys to abused woman's shelters this year. They usually leave abusive home with nothing so I wanted to make sure the kids they bring in with them have a little something at Christmas.

well 2 nights on the street after hours handing out this warmth and a full day delivering the rest to 3 shelters. The homeless woman's shelter was the hardest and I am going back on the 30th of December. there were 2 woman when i arrived that jumped on my boxes.. I had a full load in my jeep. Lots of jackets but only a few pairs of boots.
I was missing size 8 and especially size 9 boots. My heart broke with her disappointment. So i promised I will be back with some size 8 and 9. If I cant get them donated I'll buy them at the store.

as for XW. no news from her all Christmas. nothing to the girls. No letter or card. Nothing from the MLC grandmother( 29 months of nothing)
Just as we were driving to my parents i asked the girls. So nay news from your mom. Both said no. D17 said, I guess that's it.

I get in my parents place and sit down to a fine Guinness. and Beep Beep. A text from XW

I know you wont believe me when I tell you this. I hope you have a great Christmas and new years. my you find love and happiness . serenity and peace for 2018. kiss the girls for me . tell them I love them

I hold off. no response. I Was taking back a little because not 5 minutes before I had asked the question to the girls if they heard anything and this starts. I guess psychic abilities is added to the LBS's new skills

another text comes in.

I do miss them.

I reply. then why don't you message them directly. no need to go through me.

My mom misses them too.

that is where I lost it.. sorry but enough is enough.

your mom misses them ? she hasn't ever once reached out to them. No card , no email, no nothing. She is their grandmother and has no excuse for abandoning them. She is not in a dark place that you are as you so put it. What's her excuse.

I don't want to fight.

I have the flu.. I am very sick

This isn't a fight. It's me making conditions. If you want to talk to the girls go direct. If you want to talk to me about something about the girls or talk about your progress then go ahead. But to tell me you miss them and so does your mother. I don't want to hear it without actions.Merry Christmas

and once again silence and Peace is in the valley of MLC.

Her birthday is end of January. Last year she barked at the girls in an email saying how she has the right as a mother to do what she wants and they owe it to her. Lets see her game plan thins year.