Gordie #15: closing the cake shop

[Gordie]

Vapo,

Thanks. My reply to stbx is: “I will not be in an open M or three way R.” Most recently, I also said: “I will not sleep with another man’s GF.” I look her in the eye and say this calmly and directly...and then walk away.

Soto,

Thank you. You are right. And as Ginger pointed out, just knowing I can choose to exit gives me power. I know all of this in my head...but somehow my heart forgets! I hate feeling this way...like a victim, powerless...just trying to acknowledge that and vent it. Writing it down here helps with that. I have been going to the gym and sweating it out. I should try screaming again. Thanks for listening to my rants.

And recently, I told her some version of what you said: I respect your free will. You are making your own choices. I disagree with those choices but I acknowledge and accept them. I want you to sign the D and I to move out and on with my life m...separate from you.