Wow!!!!!! This is unreal. I don't won't to be to critical. But, why are you worried about taking her or not. If she takes her car why do you care, if you are taking your W and kids to dropped them off and leave anyway.
Do that explanation sound logical to you. If you standing your ground on your morals lead to D, then it needs to happen. Letting your W and BI go on like this is not healthy for you or your family.
And if she goes with or without you, is that RESPECT? Is that the type of M you want? A W that dont care how she is making you feel.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
