Just before my W came downstairs where I was wrapping presents and wanted a hug. I just looked at her and said I can’t do that. I said I can’t keep living like this and she needs to make a choice.
So............now, you'll probably be tested by her not doing much of anything that actually tells you she is taking steps to get a D nor end the A and commit to the M. If you push for an answer, she'll probably say she doesn't know what she wants. But actually, she will try to maintain things as they currently stand. I doubt she took what you said very seriously, and expects you to continue being available to her.....and waiting on the sidelines.
Remember, whenever you make statements of this nature, be prepared to follow through.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
