As far as tonight... I was definitely positioned as the scumbag here. About 8:30 on the way home, I had D call her mom who was still at aunt's house. D talking to everyone. Then I start hearing "Don't worry, we're going to make sure you're with us NO MATTER WHAT next year" with XBIL (the one who threatened to assault me) chiming in later "no matter how much money it takes, no matter what we have to do, you'll be with your family next Christmas." To be clear, the freaking schedule flips every year, so D will ABSOLUTELY BE WITH HER MOM next year.
I really feel for you and the problem of putting the D in the middle of things. Maybe a couple of weeks from now, try to have a discussion with the XW about communications between each other and with your Daughter and about not badmouthing the other parent and so forth.
