Merry Christmas Gordie! Resist!!! RESIST!!! What you've been doing is having some effect so do not backslide and ask what she's decided. That gives way to much power to the weakest link.
Just my two cents.

I'm delighted you've bought yourself new duds and are getting complimented. Good for you! I'm also very sorry about teen D's distress. Just keep being the solid guy you are. She needs that most right now.

I wish you a beautiful holiday with your children xoxoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver