Hi Board, just wanted to wish everyone a Happy Holidays and to thank everyone that has lended me their advice, wisdom and suppport over this past 7 months. I honstly don't think I would have made it or be in this position without your words. J9 will be forever grateful.
Things have been going very well over the past several days, feeling really good emotionally and looking forward to relaxing over the Holidays. Surprisingly I don't feel down, depressed, upset etc. I am off work for the next two weeks so I just plan on enjoying the season, working out, meeting up with some friends and just chillin. My parents will probably come into town over New Years so that will be cool as well.
I still have not heard from my W on whether or not she will be coming over to the house tonight, tomorrow, etc so I am just planning to do my own thing and if she reaches out, wants to partake then she is welcome. I already extended an invitation so I don't feel like I need to follow up with her. She can reach out if she wants. I feel if I reach out again to check in on her plans that it be pursuing. I think back to BD and the things that she told me so every time I think about giving in that reminds me to say "fuch that".
Any way the girls and I will be going to Christmas Eve service tonight and then coming back to the house and making homemade pizza. Watch a Christmas show or two, maybe walk around the neighboorhood and look at Christmas lights then call it a night. I still have a few presents to wrap so I will finish that off as well. Tomorrow we will just open presents, I am making us a breakfast casserole, cinnamon rolls and will invite some close family freinds over for brunch around 11. Have a few drinks and just relax!
Each day I feel stronger and stronger, less attached to any sort of outcome with my W. While I pray for continued strength, happiness for my children and that my W comes home I actually have been enjoying my time alone. In many ways it has been a nice change of pace Life could be much worse and I am thankful for all that I have.
Have a great Holiday and Merry Xmas J dawg! Enjoy the time with your daughters and give them all your love and then some more. Hope they love their presents and you can sit back and enjoy a nice drink.
Thanks M....hanging strong and I plan on having a few drinks!
W just texted me and asked what the plans where for tonight, so I told here what we were doing. She then asked me what expectations do the girls have for tonight and told her none as I never mentioned her coming over or any plans. She then said I don't know if there's a point in her coming over then. I told her that she has not come up in conversation and it is strictly up to her on what she wants to do. W indicated that she would pass then and we just discussed the coordination of her dropping off the gifts. There was no way I was going to tell her she needs to be here, etc. Her choice her decision, not mine.
I then told her we can coordinate tomorrow for a time for her to get them. She texted back and asked me to take pictures and videos of them opening up gifts.
So I am not angry, just dissapointed in her. I am trying hard to stay neutral but I will never understand it.
Anyway, I am going to enjoy the rest of my evening! She made her choice.
Hey man you handled that well! These are memories she will never get back. Enjoy your girls tonight. You deserve so much better! 2018 is gonna be our year dude! Merry Christmas!
W just texted me and asked what the plans where for tonight, so I told here what we were doing. She then asked me what expectations do the girls have for tonight and told her none as I never mentioned her coming over or any plans. She then said I don't know if there's a point in her coming over then. I told her that she has not come up in conversation and it is strictly up to her on what she wants to do. W indicated that she would pass then and we just discussed the coordination of her dropping off the gifts. There was no way I was going to tell her she needs to be here, etc. Her choice her decision, not mine.
I then told her we can coordinate tomorrow for a time for her to get them. She texted back and asked me to take pictures and videos of them opening up gifts.
I think you handled the conversation great. It's not for you to maintain your W's relationship with your children. Have a great holiday season.
Thanks all......I took pics and videos and did send some to the W. She did ask me to send and I didn't want to come across as being punitive to her. I am glad that I did. The girls are doing great and Christmas morning as has been wonderful!
Life could be much worse and I am thankful for all that I have.