Chapter 5 - Turning over to a new page

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Well, she came and went. She covered lots of topics. I kept my mouth shut. I validated where I could. She talked about how she is tired of fighting for her existence with me. She is going to give in but for me to just please let her have the small about of time she has with her kids. She says she is tired of my manipulating every conversation into what I want to talk about, and I may not be sure that I even do it. She talked about how much she misses my family. She did say it will cause hurt to them "If I start going on with my life". It was hard to hear, and I was screaming inside to say oh yeah, and if you comeback, etc, I drove her back to her apt in silence.

After that session the she told me that she won't be seeing the kids and I on Christmas eve and Christmas Day. She just said it's OK for some families, but not her (she didn't ask me what I wanted). Now she's told S17 - she may come on Christmas day. I had planned to not let her come over on Christmas day. She has O/M if she's moving on then - keep going. I'm really confused. If I don't have her over - she can't see what she's missing.

I'll leave it and see what happens.

Merry Christmas everyone