You really need to act nonchalant when she makes stupid accusations. The more you show how it bothers you, and the more you try explaining or defending yourself.......the longer she'll use this technique to dig at your spirit. If she sees she can't affect you, then she'll give up.

Stop trying to convince her that's she wrong. Just shrug your sholders as if to say, "Whatever". If she tries to pull you into an argument, tell her she can think whatever she wants. Do not argue about it.

When a H starts trying to defend the M to his own W, it's easy to fall into her traps and become defensive about himself. That type of reaction makes him appear weak. He knows the truth about himself, so why should he debate with her? She is wayward and will choose to think negative things about him. It does not change the truth. It's just her.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!