Husband gone for second time - new here

[Cherry]

I get what you mean, and your career you can pick back up at some point along the way. Yes, it might be different, and the days may be shorter and less travel- but you can make it work around your family. My main career is a commercial lawyer for a high profile company. I went from full time with travel, to part time and significantly less travel- though i now pick up more over conference calls. Life does become different as a mom, especially when you’re used to being a career woman, but believe me- it can come back.

Never mind (easier said than done) about who he chooses to peruse. You’re a woman, not a girl. I’ve been surprised how many guys actually say they find me all the more sexier that I’m a mother. And that’s the primal part, it triggers that part in the brain that says you’re fertile and able to carry a baby. But what i want is you to start to see that yourself. You have been through a lot with him, and that shows in your lack of confidence. But you are smart, and beautiful- don’t let him and his airheads get to you. You have to start believing your worth, even the most tiny thing will help you feel better. Even a new piece of clothing, getting a girlfriend to come out with you and entertain d while you get your eyebrows done, paint your nails while d does some colouring. Anything that makes you feel a bit more like you.

With regards to finding someone, like jim says, don’t worry about something that hasn’t happened yet. Take it day by day and see what happens. There is always someone out there, it’s likely wether directly or indirectly, your h has made you believe there is no one out there for you. There is, absolutely. I’m the opposite of you, I’m a Muslim but not conservative in the way i don’t cover my head and i wear western clothes. I may pray 5 times a day, and follow all the rules. But some men won’t see past that. But then that’s their loss. Don’t rule anything out.