Husband gone for second time - new here

[Caz49]

Hi Nicole,

I hear in you what resonates in me...better the devil we know! I see the flaws and the things that make me love H. They are a sum of all their parts. I see the vulnerability that H doesn't even know he has. And this is what keeps me hooked.

And oh boy it's a tough one to break. I don't want to date anyone, the thought of it fills me with all kinds of ick...and yet I know there is someone out there who is better suited, more compatible and will be more devoted to me and want me to be devoted to him. I just wish I could picture myself with him. One day!

And thank you! You sound lovely too! I wish we could start a club and all meet up and rejoice in our friendship.

Nicole, the great thing about you, you were able to shift your priorities, and D was the most important thing in your life, then came your health...if your H couldn't or wouldn't put his needs...just for a while...on the back burner, then he is not deserving of your head space. Yes, we do have to make our partners feel needed, but my guess is your H has an almighty chip on his shoulder where he needs to be up front and centre of all the attention.
You put an amazing career on hold to begin a family, H should be proud, not bent out of shape because you didn't fit into his 'get his juices flowing' dreams.

But if you truly want to rekindle your career, then go for it...looking over your shoulder with 'hey, oh did you want something H?' He just may think...Whaaat is going on???

He seems to need a whole lot of growing up to do. And if you truly love him I believe he needs a wake up call. (I say if you truly love him because I'm thinking is he better the devil you know) BUT I'm no expert and following my own advice is scary as all h@@@

Have a super Christmas with your little girl. It's such a wonderful time, and I will be here if you feel like venting come Christmas Day xx