Yeah, it's REALLY irregular and is a result of how XW handled the divorce (turning it from an agreed divorce into a contested one). We're divorced, property is separated, parenting plan is TBD with the previously agreed plan becoming an interim plan pending mediation and eventual (I assume) trial.
The mediator told XW that D doesn't get to pick, and will be a teenager before she gets to express preference.
Having things in writing doesn't seem to make things better.
