this is not meant to be a 2x4... this is a message wrapped in barbed wire (as i am rarely the type to deliver a message in cottonballs)... frankly, i am having a hard time believing this is exactly what your coach is advising you... it makes zero sense... i wonder if it's how you are interpreting what your coach is advising you because it allows you to keep things as is--which is one of the worse situations i have come across on these boards...
you will be in this very situation until your wife finishes her graduate program... at that point, if she is ready to get out of this quagmire which is your marriage, she will... if she is content to keep things as is indefinitely, you will be in this same situation for the next two decades... i don't understand why you would want that, but it is clear that you do... you are unwilling to do anything that would bring change to your situation... mis dos centavos--
