Gordie #14: the end of my M to MLC W, I think

[Gordie]

Andrew,

Thank you and you are right. The teens are being more outwardly rebellious towards stbx. To me this is obviously about the D but she is in complete denial. I do not bad mouth stbx, but I do voice my values and beliefs: adultery is wrong and M vows are sacred. Re the tax change thank you for your concern but seems like I have 12 months to sign a deal.

Sotto,

That is the right q. What do I need to do to take care of myself and my children? I don’t know and when I think I know then I question myself again. If this was MLC without AP I think I could continue to live together but with OM2 in the picture, I think it is too distressing to me, at least it is right now. My L does talk to her L and all agree stbx is dragging her feet. And agree to not make decisions while upset. I was sorely tempted to engage her this morning but I did not.

Ginger,

You are right. I wish I was more detached so that her activities with OM2 did not bother me as much, but...it still make me nauseous. Dang, I thought I was doing better but feel like I’m back sliding.

Job,

We stopped relations when she started with OM2. That’s a boundary for me that I intend to keep. and yes, wouldn’t want to pickup any STDs. However, it does not affect our D proceedings in my state of both parties want it.

Vapo,

Great q! For me, actual D is closing a page on this chapter of my life. But maybe that’s all in my head and heart. I’ve been waiting for D before moving out and living likre a singe man/single dad. Given her (in)action, all of you will tell me to do that right now, right?