Husband gone for second time - new here

[Jim1234]

Nicole, your confidence will return. It may take awhile, but it will. Right now you have the most important job in the world, and you're doing it very well. Unfortunately, there's just no one to tell you that. Also, some GAL activities will bring you confidence and a sense of accomplishment. It will just take a little time. Allow yourself that time.

My W had chronic health issues, too. She was pretty much bedridden for most of 8 years. Health issues will take a toll on a marriage, but mostly it will take a toll on your psyche. And having a toddler makes it that much harder. All I can say is that over time, as your health improves, so will your outlook.

I know you were scared by the side effects of some of the prescribed drugs, but remember, they are "possible" side effects. During clinical trials, some number of people had these side effects. It could be as few as 2 per thousand. Thats miniscule, but in today's litigious world, pharma companies have to put it on the bottle. YOUR odds of having this side effect are miniscule. And at worst, you can just stop taking the drug. It might make for a few uncomfortable days, but it might improve the rest of your life.

Stop worrying if men will find you attractive. You are attractive, and will be more so when you have more confidence, and lose your H. You keep mentioning reasons why it won't work with this type of man or the other type. You are making excuses for failures that haven't happened yet. OK, so a conservative Muslim man probably won't happen. But stop being so closed minded about everyone else. There are plenty of moderates and conservatives, Christian, Muslim, Jewish, pagan, animist, whatever, who will treat you with respect and love you. You might have to kiss more frogs than some of us to find them, but so what?