I know how you feel because my xh left 12 days before Christmas back in 1999. His actions ruined Christmas for everyone...but I can assure you, it got better w/time and today, well...I look forward to Christmas and pray for his lost soul. It will get better for you as well...but it will take time.
About MLC. It's been around for a very, very long time, but back in the day, people would say "he/she's gone off her rocker for a bit" and ignore it as best as possible. Also, divorce wasn't easy to get back in the 50's, 60's or even the 70's. Keep in mind, in today's society, people live a whole lot longer and thanks to social media, we are seeing more and more of this behavior and the label MLC was born.
Doctor's do not want to put a label of MLC on their behaviors, but some would say it's depression. When my xh walked, my physician asked me if I need AD's for his crisis. Yep, that's right...my physician knew all about what my xh was going through and so did my lawyer. Unfortunately, no one wants to actually call it a medical condition. Yes, people use to joke about the little red sports car, the gold chains around their necks and the young women hanging on the men's arms...but it's not a joke to all that are affected by it.
People are far more aware of MLC than they use to be thanks to social media. Unfortunately, people do not realize the impact a crisis will have on their particular family until it hits. That's the sad part of the whole thing.
Hunny, this year will be a rough one for you, but you will get through it the best you can. I'll be cruising the forum throughout the day and if you want to chat, post and I'll be here to walk the path w/you that day.
Hang in there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
