New LBS dealing with WW Part 2

[Surfer]

Joe,

Just focus on you and the kids. Forget her rollercoaster ride. If she invites you on it decline. In the same way if she invited you to drink poison. No thanks.

Your goal is to move into a new phase of your life. One where you and the kids are happily away from her rollercoaster. Be calm, be strong, be a man and a dad.
Things you already are. If you get things ‘wrong’ accept it and learn from it but mostly forgive yourself.

You need to get into a phase where you do not yearn for her. Because she is not who you thought she was - if not who she was.she has changed. She may never be that person again for you. Accept it. The more time you spend detaching, the easier it is. It is very difficult in house for obvious reasons but keep up things that work - gym etc. Never engage in an argument, particularly when there are children near.

You will get through this. You need to keep fixed on the future ahead being bright. It will be. You will have the odd moment but less and less as time goes on. And you will be the happy you again.

Many here have lived what you are living. Be strong. You are.

Surfer.