Separation imminent (cont.)

[DonH]

Hermes... In what universe and on what planet does W get to dictate who you can speak to, about what, when and how? Think about it. At this point it's clear your W is going to complain about anything you do and want the opposite. That is painfully obvious whereby she asks you if you prefer the 6th or the 13th and then tells you your answer is wrong. How much do you want to bet had you chose the 6th she would have said she wants the 13th? You really have to stop allowing her to dictate YOUR LIFE. If you don't she will continue telling you the way to live - mostly by wanting, actually demanding, the opposite of whatever you say or do. Walking away and letting her sit is the best thing you did in that interaction. She wants to be mad, wants to spew, wants to complain and regardless of what you do it will be wrong.

I know this is hard, we all do. You have been YOU for a long, long time. Changing to a more confident, alpha you is going to take time. Just continue to put yourself first, be friendly and say as little as possible. "I'm really sorry you feel that way," is often all that is needed. If you are trying to make her happy and agree with you - on pretty much anything - it's not likely to happen in the short term. As Sandi often says, you can't nice a WAW/WW back into the marriage.