Husband gone for second time - new here

[Jim1234]

That creates pressure, right? Now I'm second guessing whether I should have just tried to struggle silently here where I am for a few more months, not talking about any plans, and getting a life to the extent possible in place where I don't plan to stay.

The way I see it, you're second guessing yourself over nothing. He's literally had years to work on the marriage. A few more months wouldn't have made a difference. And if anything, I think it takes the pressure off him. Also, you leaving might just be the catalyst he needs to see what he's losing.