Thanks for replying. What I've been most successful at is GAL. In these 5 years, I've earned my pilot's license, I am active racing sailboats, a few months ago I joined an over-30 soccer league. In October, I took my 3 girls on vacation to Utah without the W. I do crossfit and life weights, I'm probably in the best physical shape of my life. I've become a more confident, outgoing, and active person.
Essentially, I'm doing everything I would do if I was suddenly divorced except dating. I think you are right about moving on with my life.
NicoleR:
Thanks for reading my sitch, and I agree I have nothing to lose. My guess is this would push it along faster. If she doesn't want to work on the MR, and doesn't initiate the D, then at some point I would have to.
In my W's case, I think there are several reasons she hasn't filed for D. She is staying in part for our children. Financially as a couple we are very comfortable and don't worry about money at all. Separated, my W realizes that would change given the high cost of California real estate. My W earned a graduate degree during this time, and that was one reason she didn't move on. She is not cheating on me, however she has many close friends and I would say she is getting a lot of emotional support and satisfaction out of these friendships. In summary, she has a good life and she knows it.
