Our situations are quite similar. I can sympathize with how hard it is to make a final decision about divorce. It's extremely hard when your spouse doesn't initiate the divorce but shows no signs of wanting to work on the marriage after years pass by. Why do they do that? I guess having the benefits of a marriage while doing whatever they want works in their favor? Or they'd rather you file for divorce so they don't have to be the 'bad' person?
Your thread made me think more about my situation which I'll write about on my thread. In your case, I don't know, I'd probably say what you plan to say to your wife. Maybe that's wrong, but at this point what do you have to lose? By asking her those questions you at least know you tried one last time. You're at least being fair by giving her a chance to speak. If she still doesn't want to change but doesn't file for divorce then I guess you'd have to decide how long to wait before you file. Eventually you want to move on and be available to date again, right?
