Wow, Doodler. You do pay attention to detail!! I sure hope you copy/pasted some of that. I skimmed your sitch. I won't say anything that has not been said already, but detach. You'll be better for it.
pinn! good to see you're still active here. And physically active too. Sorry about your Mom, and the D. I hope that you are finding your new self after the turmoil.
2016Sux, I also skimmed your thread. I know emotional pain is awful, but please don't despair. Everything does get better. And if you ever hit rock bottom again, just think of your S4 of your suffering, remember your S4 - you are his guiding light. You will one day use your acquired wisdom to guide him through his relationships. You should change your name to 2018Rox.
Subitai, thanks for posting. I could have used that industrial rock during my darker days. Bullet with Butterfly wings, by Smashing Pumpkins, was my "Terrible Lie" song. Looks like you are very new to the BB. Focus on the books, Sandi's rules, and the advice of the elders. It may not save your M, but it will save you.