Job - I did check into Coly's link and our H's are very similar except mine rarely goes more than 3 days without contacting me. That's now... but when he goes further into Replay I bet the contact frequency drops a lot. Her cycling is very similar to mine too. Interesting to read about someone else whose sitch is similar.
Gordie - H has wanted to keep the friendship from the very beginning. It hasn't gone that way though and there isn't much now to call it friends.
Not sure his increased contact has to do with the holidays. His first attempt since BD to restore our friendship was around the end of November.
For Christmas - he has his family to see on Christmas Day but I'm guessing he will keep it short so he can get home to have a lengthy chat with his OW (long distance).
Hunny
Having contact so frequently is a mixed bag for me. He is kind and nice but still nothing like his old self. The problem is that eeing them so frequently makes it harder to detach and harder to have NO expectations. And it doesn't always go smoothly and then I'm upset for a couple of days after. NC always feels better. So I don't initiate anything. It's a difficult call for me to say I would limit it further because I wonder if he would stop being so generous with the money.
