JMSTL Thread 6-Let's go for a test drive

[Jmstl]

Female point of view here (I also happen to be the same age as you)....

It is totally mental. One guy I dated took a while to seal the deal. He hadn't had sex in 2 years and he totally psyched himself out. I was patient with him, and when it got going, it got going. We are the best sex either of us ever had (I can verify this).

One guy was younger than me, in his 20's. Failed mission the first time. He was totally psyched out. (apparently I am intimidating? beginning to think they weren't attracted to me, but that wasn't the case)Second time wasn't a fail and again, once it got started, no problems there.

I wouldn't put the warning out there. Too much in her head and too munch in yours.

I think you are trying to hard to get over this hump, so to say. ANd going to get another car to make yourself feel better is probably going to build build the pressure and make it worse.

And I am asking this and seriously suggesting it. Next time, have a few drinks, if you drink. Don't get drunk, whatever you do, but enough to chill.

But stop trying so hard. I think you might be overly focused on dating and getting the sex out of the way. Do your online class. Go on some dates, but don't make it such a mission, especially one that you are setting yourself up for failure. because that's what you are doing by telling these ladies that.

Thanks, Ginger. Having a female point of view is very good to have, as it does help me analyze the situation.

As far as the warning...I have only told one person, and that was the person that was taking it slow. I was trying to be as honest and vulnerable as possible and let her know that when we got to 'that level' if there were any issues, it wasn't because of her or anything she did, and that it was with me.

I realize now though, something that my dad always told me. Less is more.