I am so glad that your son is okay...but sorry that his car was totaled. I'm sure in a couple of months, he'll be ready to get another one...but for now...he appears to be happy to have some cash coming in.
I think you did the right thing in helping your son w/the gift. Your actions showed your son that even though things are so great between you and your xh, you are willing to help your son forge a relationship w/his father. Supporting our children through these difficult times will pay off two fold in the future.
As Andrew pointed out...we can only rely on ourselves and will know and meet our standards when they come along.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
