No, Nicole, no affairs, just an unhappy marriage, and in retrospect, I share a lot more blame than I imagined at the time. During the long slide downhill, I said and did some things that destroyed her sense of safety and security in our marriage, and that was when she really just checked out. I didn't really understand that until it was too late.
My situation isn't really further along, it's just taking more time. If she wants a divorce, I'm not doing it for her, so nothing's getting done. It would be typical for her to let it languish, but part of me hopes she doesn't really want the divorce.
It's funny you ask that. I've been hoping for a reconciliation for a long time. But the Thanksgiving episode helped me achieve a lot of the distance I need, and I now realize that I'm trying to reconcile with the woman she was 20 years ago. She no longer exists, and I don't want to spend the next 30 years of my life with the woman she is today.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
