...one web site advice to put some fun pictures and add some pretty women on Facebook to bring more attention to my wife.
I've learned a lot about relationships in the last year and I feel confident enough now to say this is TERRIBLE advice. It may have been something a 13 year old has written, or someone mentally equivalent to a 13 year old. Who needs this kind of drama? You've definitely done the right thing by removing the account and I would steer clear of trying to make her jealous again.
I get a lot of advice from well meaning friends who say I should start dating and rub it into my WH's face. It's worked for them before. And I can understand why. It brings to the fore a sense of loss when you watch someone move on, even if you don't want to be with them anymore. I've decided against this tactic because I don't want to play games and if WH ever decided to come back, I would want it to be for ME, and not because I messed with his psyche and manipulated his feelings of loss. Because in the latter case it wouldn't be built on a solid foundation.
Those that find ourselves on this forum have had their lives collapse around them, or find themselves in the process of collapsing. In all cases we must rebuild, so let's rebuild on something true, honest and healthy. I think you're starting to do that already, and I am trying to everyday.
