I was listening to NPR yesterday and there was some guy saying that he noticed that depressed people often do things to support the state of depression. They'll listen to depressing music, read depressing books and watch depressing movies. After thinking about it a bit, I think he's right; it's as if depressed people need to wallow in all of the sadness. It's like the rumination cycle becomes a good friend.
Oh so you're the one who was listening to NPR. I figured someone had to be.
Seriously though, I agree. It's like people who claim "bad things always happen to me" or "I have the worst luck" when really it's them creating their "luck". Same with those surrounded by drama. Or even people who always seem happy, nothing appears to bother them. We tend to create and foster what we get and if we want to feel depressed or the victim or whatever we keep fostering it.
GINGER: great to hear you are putting money away! That's awesome and I promise unless your dad is speculating bit coin or something you'll be so pleased and amazed at what will be waiting for you at retirement.
I think you are too young to give up if you really want it as well. Taking a break is fine though. Nothing says you have to rush back in. Perhaps most of all, should you consider trying something else? Does OLD really work? Clearly it has not for you, me and others here. Or perhaps should you try eHarmony since that tends to at least be a step higher on the OLD scale. Or perhaps try other things? FF didn't come from OLD nor did your last ltr. That's all I wonder about. Continuing to try to find somene does not nessisarily mean continuing to try OLD
Interesting what your C said about not giving up unless they really don't want it. I'm wondering if that's not me? Something for me to think about.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
